The key to harmony in our relationships is directly connected to our relationship with ourselves. Our feelings and internal energy reflect how we manage connections and interactions with others.
Even before we are born we are involved in a relationship with our mother - our carrier into this world and all her life experiences. We are exposed to these relationship patterns energetically and become aware of them. These patterns of early childhood are what shape our relationships with others and ourselves.
Many times we find it is easy to have positive relationships with some people but not others. The triggers we have that lead to discord are deep within us and may find their roots in our childhood. On the days we are under stress or overwhelmed with work, we are more sensitive to triggers that bring up emotional discords which reflect in our relationships.
The hype of sharing and giving is instilled in us at a very young age and advertising is often focused on shopping, gatherings and parties during the holidays. In reality, this can be very stressful for many. There can be a mix of emotions and some may feel excited and enjoy the activities while others may feel overwhelmed or seek to find solace in being alone.
Feelings of loss come in many forms. A friend who recently divorced is feeling anxious about the prospect of being alone for the holidays. The death of a loved one in the family can also leave many unable to enjoy the spirit of the holidays. In times of grief, the traditions are interrupted by a sense of bereavement.
Having a quiet space and time to contemplate and reflect on our lives is essential to finding our internal peace. I liken it to a feeling of contentment with our decisions, our relationships, and ourselves.
Throughout our lives, we experience moments of distress, exhaustion‚ anxiety and depression. Life can be overwhelming and if something stressful and unexpected occurs, it can feel as though that one incident turns into “the straw that broke the camel’s back”. You may feel overburdened with feelings of desperation and hopelessness. Whether you are conscious of it or not, you need strategies to help you cope and provide optimism for a better outcome. You may also need people to provide support in achieving the best possible state of wellbeing.
An Attitude of Gratitude!
Last week we had a wonderful opportunity to join a spiritual group in Italy and reflect on “Blessings” as a subject.
This led me to reflect on my childhood and consider my awareness of the gift of gratitude and its meaning. I asked myself: “Did I feel gratitude when my Mom fed me? Was it when my Dad played with me? Or was it the complete love and wonder I saw in their eyes when they looked at me?” Gratitude can be expressed as a simple look, nod, smile, and hug or even energetically as a mutual feeling of warmth between individuals.
October is the month notoriously associated with Hallowe’en. For those with children, it naturally conjures up thoughts of costumes, candy, pranking, skeletons, carving pumpkins and trick-or-treating but have you ever stopped to wonder about its origins and why we celebrate? One of the world’s oldest holidays started off very different than what we know it today.
It is widely believed that many Halloween traditions originated from ancient Celtic harvest festivals, particularly the Gaelic festival Samhain, which celebrated their new year on November 1st. Samhain marked the end of summer and harvest and the beginning of winter, a time often associated with human death.